reading John maxwell's book: Today matters, today's relationship give me fulfillment.
im sad tat im not a person who value ppl, value r/ship. im jz so bad in tat. how to build it? how to value it?
since young im alone, im quiet, im selfish.
JM says, u'll find the most hapi person, whose the one value life, value r/ship.
ya, i agree tat too.
i gotta learn to like ppl, learn to undstd ppl, respect ppl...
bridge the gap: when ppl
- are insecure... give them confidence
- want to feel special... sincerely compliment them
- desire a bettr tmro... show them hope
- need to be understood... listen to them
- are selfish... speak to their needs first
- get emotionally low... encourage them
- want to be associated with success... help them win
asking myself:
- do i have ulterior motives for wanting to relate to this person?
- is my caring conditional?
- am i trying to escape sthg?
- am i planning to change the person?
- do i need this person to help me make up for a deficiency in myself?
- ??
if YES, leave them alone, they are better off without you!
have i been thoughtful toward ppl today?
would they express joy that they have spent time with me?
1. put other first: treat as urself; ppl dont care how much u know b4 they know how much u care
2. don't carry emotional baggage: past hurt, offences, resolve it
3. give time to most valuable r/ship: not FCFS basis, at the end, u'll drain & nthg much can give
4. serve others gladly: live for others; do it cheerfully
5. express love and appreciation often: u can't express it more when u lay on bed for last breath; see the best in ppl, find 1 thing to admire them
wow... its unbearable to me... i gotta give so much!!
to clarify, im not a person that do not hv frenz at all, there are frenz tat i can naturally practice all the above... but just very hard to practice for so many ppl
